Yup. You read it. I’m actually almost that terrible of a person. (And yes, this is the only article I’m hoping he never reads). I almost made a terrible decision based on a factor that is actually a good quality.
It was date night and we had planned to go to Benihana (it was my choice. Don’t judge the hood in me). My beau is not familiar with Japanese or hibachi cuisine. I told him not to worry; there were vegetarian options. However, he recently made the transition to full-on vegan and if you know anything about Benihana is that they throw a slab of butter on everything, Paula Dean style.
I admit; I was bummed. I had been craving buttery fried rice all week. So, in this instance I will blame my irrational rage on the fact that I practically starved myself all day in anticipation of the golden goodness of hibachi. I smacked my teeth, I snarled, I threw a mini (but adult-like) temper tantrum. He pleaded that he would still give it a try, just to make my bitchy-self happy. I passed and continued to bitch.
I didn’t want to go to a restaurant that both of us couldn’t enjoy. (See I’m not that bad!) I hate the look on his face when something is less than satisfactory. However, this did pose the question: will this be a great debate for every dining option?
Listen, I love to eat. It’s one my favorite pastimes for connecting with friends, family, lovers, strangers, whoever. It doesn’t have to be a 5-star spot, but I don’t exactly consider Taco Bell a valid option either.
I panicked. If I can’t eat with the one I love then whom will I eat with? What will we eat? Is our future doomed forever? Will I have to become a vegan too? But I love ribs in the summertime! And I love cheese!
The next morning over brunch (ahem!) with a girlfriend, I asked her was I a horrible human for these thoughts. She said no, but she understood my frustration. She also stated that this could be a way to bond even more. He could introduce me to some new cool vegan recipes and I could stand to be a tad healthier. Plus it will be a fun challenge to find vegan restaurants. After all, it’s New York City – we have everything!
I know that faux vegan chicken won’t satisfy me the same as the real thing, but that doesn’t mean I have to kick my vegan boyfriend to the curb. We’ll take this a day at a time.
(Photo Courtesy of Pierre-Selim)