If you’ve been tuning into the second season of Love and Hip Hop Atlanta, then you should already be familiar with newcomers to the cast, DJ Traci Steele and her ex/baby father, DJ Babey Drew.
But in case you haven’t, Traci and Drew are both well-established DJs based in Atlanta. Traci runs her own weekend show on Hot 107.9 while DJ Babey Drew is best known as Chris Brown’s official DJ. The two are co-parenting a six-year old son, but their relationship isn’t exactly drama-free as to be expected on LHHATL.
Traci’s fully committed to raising her son and views Drew’s single life as a threat to their family. She claims she only cares about who Drew messes with for the sake of her son. I’d like to think it’s deeper than that after watching Traci blow up on Drew after she showed up to his house uninvited and saw one of his “microwaveable hoes.”
Tears flew, fingers were pointed, and a $25,000 check written out for their business endeavor was torn into shreds, and Traci’s son was nowhere in sight. The way she reacted would cause anyone to think that the two still had something going on or, at the very least, were dealing with a fresh break-up to cause Traci’s emotions to escalate so quickly.
So of course when Drew revealed that he and Traci hadn’t been together in seven years, LHHATL viewers took to their Twitter accounts to call Traci out for not moving on yet. Tweets ranged from calling Traci a bitter, scorned woman to a crazy baby momma. And why she would invest in her ex’s sneaker store? Tweeters didn’t know.
I’m not here to add to the Traci-bashing sessions. In fact, I don’t think her story is that different from any other female struggling to let go of a broken relationship. Do I agree that Traci should’ve moved on years ago? Yes, but until she realizes why she “can’t” break free of Drew, then she won’t ever do it. After tuning into the life of Traci and Drew every week, I’ve picked out some reasons Traci hasn’t moved on yet.
She has entitlement issues
Traci has known Drew for over ten years and has a child with him. While the two undoubtedly have a history together, Traci needs to get rid of her sense of entitlement in Drew’s life. Yes, Traci and Drew need to give their son a sense of family, but that doesn’t change that they have no commitment to each other outside of co-parenting. If Drew wants to have a female over at his house when his son’s not around, then he has every right to do so, and Traci has no right to tell him otherwise.
She didn’t ask to be a single mother
Traci didn’t choose to live the life of a single mother. Drew chose it for her, or at least that’s how she chose to explain it. Before having their child, Traci and Drew had discussed marriage, but as we can see, their plans took a left and based on Traci’s emotions, it looks like she won’t be satisfied until they’re made right. Relationships take unexpected turns sometimes, and though Drew is comfortable where he’s at, Traci hasn’t come to terms with her single mother status. While she doesn’t have to let go of her dream of having a family, she does have to let go of what could’ve been between her and Drew. However, letting go requires forgiveness, which brings me to my next point.
She hasn’t forgiven Drew
If it isn’t obvious enough, Traci is still carrying old baggage from her past with Drew. While I won’t deny that being cheated on during a pregnancy is painful for any woman to experience, I won’t encourage anyone to allow their past to rule over their present and future. Whenever Traci sees Drew with another woman, I don’t doubt it triggers memories of the disrespect she dealt with from females Drew cheated on her with while she was carrying his baby. But it’s about time for Traci to separate back then from right now. After seven years, Traci still hasn’t found someone to fill a void in her love life (or lack of one), but until she accepts that Drew no longer wants to fulfill that role, she’ll never find the happiness she deserves.
What are your thoughts on Traci and Drew’s relationship?