Have you ever felt uninspired? A creative block? My theory is that this only occurs when you’re distracted by outside circumstances. Sometimes it could be your health, finances, your extra long to-do list, which can make you feel extremely stressed. But have you ever really examined the company you keep, and how they could be affecting your energy?
Those we choose to have around us, such as friends or associates, can strongly influence how we feel about ourselves without us realizing. Dating? Your boyfriend or girlfriend can have an effect especially since your emotions are tied in.
If you feel that you can’t be yourself and grow without being criticized from those around you, well then it’s time to rearrange your circle. As Erykah said, “if you don’t want to be down with me, then you don’t want to pick from my apple tree.” Don’t change, dumb yourself down, or think negatively of yourself because the people around you won’t let you be yourself. Bottom line, you want people around that encourage your growth as opposed to killing it. Stop sharing ideas with these people if that’s the case.
For example, during my first year out of school, I was told by someone that building a freelance/entrepreneurial career would not be as smart as aiming for a job. I could see that they probably meant well. But in the end, it is possible to have a successful career freelancing and many people are living that life. Still being underemployed, I refuse to wait for anyone to let me write and work, so I’m building my own opportunities until further notice. It’d be great to have a full-time job in my field, but look, I have too many ideas that I need to execute now.
Moreover, I believe when the people around you strive for growth, you strive for growth too. When you don’t have that positive company, you miss out on building with people that can help you down the line. This in itself can be a block to your focus and create an environment that isn’t inspiring. When you want to build yourself professionally, spirituality, financially, etc., but all your friends’ actions are the opposite, you are making it harder for yourself to be successful in those areas. Influence is real.
Sometimes you might have to walk alone before you find those people. But nonetheless keep away from those who aren’t progressive in their ways. A heart that isn’t burdened with negativity and drama can focus its energy towards things that matter, and also be open to the smaller miracles that happen around us all that time, that do inspire us.
I’ll end with this, because I found it right after I came up with the idea of this post, and it was timely to everything I’ve been thinking as it regards to what I’ve said here:
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything You do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23.