The hardest part about walking away from a relationship is realizing that the dream is over.
We have relationships with people, but let’s take for instance the connection we establish with the places or things we love. You can have an attachment to a dog, your favorite restaurant, or maybe some sunglasses. But what happens when that animal dies? Or your favorite restaurant goes out of business? Or you drop your shades on the floor and they break?
For a number of reasons letting go is hard. You probably had many memories walking that dog. You probably sat down for dinner in that restaurant many years and know the menu from front to back. And those shades probably fit your face well and went well with every outfit.
After your dog dies, you might decide you want another dog, and you find one that needs a home and you love that one the same. Then one day when you least expect it, you go into a new restaurant, find you love it, and you end up knowing the menu cover-to-cover. And after your shades break, you go shopping and eventually you find a new pair that looks even better than the old ones you had.
With all this said, the relationship we have with the little things we come to love in our lives, can be compared to people in someways.
When you’ve been building a relationship, you do all you can to save it before it crumbles. And we often get caught up in what was, or what could hopefully be. Unfortunately it is what it is. But the hardest part to face is that the dream of being with that person has ended.
In my own experience, no relationship or connection you have with anyone goes in vain. I take it as a lesson whether it turns out good or bad. What’s most important is to understand that things, although it may not currently seem so, are moving in your favor. And sometimes people have to be removed in order to have better people move in to your life.
It’s never easy to realize that. But when I constantly remind myself of it, I feel it’s no need to blame myself for not being able to save what was no longer meant for me to have.
The pattern of obtaining and letting go is happening all around us everyday. We go into each moment and as quickly as we’re given it, it’s let go to make way for a new one. If not life would always be on pause. How else would you live if things weren’t always rearranging itself and moving in and out out your life constantly?
Yes letting go is hard, but you shouldn’t be afraid to do it if you have to.
-Natelege Whaley
